After studying sexless marriages for decades and analyzing responses from the Sexless Marriages Survey: With Self-Assessment Checklists, Patsy Rae Dawson uncovered three surprising epiphanies that changed her understanding of marriage, intimacy, and family dysfunction.
Epiphany #1
A remarkably high percentage of both deprived mates and withholding spouses grew up in alcoholic homes. The effects of alcohol often continue long after drinking stops, shaping attitudes, relationships, and the ability to give and receive love.
Epiphany #2
Children raised in the same dysfunctional home do not all respond alike.
One child learns to pursue connection, approval, and peace.
Another learns to withdraw, avoid vulnerability, and protect themselves through emotional distance.
Years later, these childhood survival strategies frequently reappear in marriage as the deprived spouse and the withholder.
Epiphany #3
The most shocking discovery challenged common assumptions.
While withholding spouses often accuse their deprived mates of sexual problems, the survey revealed that withholders were far more likely to combine alcohol and pornography, perpetuating patterns often learned in their families of origin.
But this book is not about blame.
It is about hope.
The same God who transformed the Corinthians from drunkenness, sexual sin, and relational brokenness can transform modern husbands and wives. Through Scripture and practical application, this book shows how God’s pattern of sanctification enables people to replace childhood survival techniques with genuine love, emotional connection, and one-flesh intimacy.
You will discover:
Why alcoholic families of origin may be a hidden factor in many sexless marriages.
How “dry-drunk” thinking and distorted anger damage marriages long after drinking ends.
Why the deprived and the withholder often react differently to the same family dysfunction.
How childhood survival techniques become adult relationship patterns.
What God’s three-step pattern of transformation teaches about healing relationships.
How sanctification breaks generational cycles and creates a new family legacy.
Why you are not trapped by the emotional blueprint you inherited from your parents.
How the cycle of violence in alcoholic families of origin turns into the cycle of withholding in marriage.
You are not doomed to repeat your family history.
You can understand the past.
You can identify the survival techniques that no longer serve you.
You can follow God’s path of sanctification.
And you can create a new legacy of love, joy, peace, and one-flesh intimacy for future generations.
YOUR LOVE LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME! Free on Kindle.
